Interview with moez Masoud by Islamonline.net on Tuesday,Apr 13 ,2004
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Name Yolla - Canada
I would like to know what you believe is the best approach a mother and father can use to communicate with teen agers living in the west. Although our daughter is raised as a muslim with good values she finds our restrictions and advice a little too much and she feels like she has no life. How can we help her get through this period and keep her Islamic values without getting lost in the western culture. Jazakum Allay Khairan, please also inform us of where and when your program is aired if you has a current program.
Alaykum el salaam,
May Allah bless yourself and your family and your daughter.. ameen. I am very happy that you're concerned about achieving a healthy balance for your daughter. I also ask Allah that you accomplish what you desire.
It is very understandable that she feels the way she does, or as you put it "like she has no life" - namely because in the Sunna we are told that there will come a time of inversion - a time where all the values are completely reversed, basically a time where you're not 'in' if you don't go along with the disobedient norm. One very important point that needs to be kept in mind when dealing with youth nowadays is that the Mercy of Allah precedes His wrath. Not only do we need to keep reminding them of that, we also need to remind ourselves. If they feel that there's no hope for them, then there really is no point in trying hard and putting forth necessary effort to change one's self.
Another very important point is the step-by-step process where, for example, after clarifying what is right or wrong clearly, allowing for gray areas that result from weakness or forgetfulness (or at time even, peer pressure). One thing that really worked for a lot people was telling then to pray many prayers that they missed during the day at night, instead of just letting them go so as to create the habit of prayer within them. That is not to say that praying at night is right, but it's really saying that until you get there don't be a perfectionist - don't have the 'all or nothing' attitude. If you fall down get up again, Allah forgives all sins, when you repent. particularly if they are sins of the senses emanating from weakness, temptation, and forgetfulness etc.
What this approach did for a lot of people (though they understood clearly that they had to pray 5 separate prayers on time) was give them hope, and every time they missed a prayer, they did Qadaa' (make-up prayers), begged Allah's forgiveness for missing it until eventually they loved praying again (went back to their fitra- their inherent nature) and wouldn't choose to miss it willingly again.
That's just an example, the same goes for a lot of do's and don'ts - it really works when they're not presented as such, and when the person approaching SHOWS then that they have hope in them, and TRULY feels love and mercy for them. Asking an alcoholic and drug addict to quit cigarette smoking is not very tactful. And if one were to meet a drug addict who quit all his drugs and alcohol just today and scold him for smoking a cigarette, it would probably turn him away from the Deen. Especially if we always look at people as if they're not doing well enough and as if they're missing something - the cup should seem half full when approaching youth, especially today.
Knowing much about the world today, and about what the youth are experiencing first-hand usually helps too. And being their friend (sincerely -to the point that they CONFIDE in you) is usually the cherry on top.
The success of all this or its failure depends on our sincerty to Allah while we attempt it, for if we do our best Allah will not let us down in our offspring. So it's important to understand that we are calling our children to Allah, not away from a lifestyle that they've chosen to one that we prefer.
"And those who say 'Our Lord make our spouses and children the coolness of our eyes'"
The above is my translation, and I have to run as we're out of time.
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Name rose - Norway
I love your shows they have helped me a lot!! Because I read your biography I now am very careful about my prayers I used to not care about them! May Allah reward you for being an inspiring person! Now my question is: where do you find motivation to work for this life and the next? And how can this ummah be better? We left the Qur'an and I think now that our generation is going back to it.
It seems to me that the world hates Islam because of terrorism and that Islam oppress women is their favourite subject. Does it not make you sad? It really makes me depressed sometimes. However I remind myself this world is a test, that helps. What about you?
Sorry lengthy question. Allah Hafiz brother!
Please forgive any typos and acronyms because I'm trying to answer everything insha Allah.
Firstly, jazakum Allah kheir for your inspiring words, I ask Allah to accept all our, and the umma's deeds, ameen.
Alhamdulilah I DO feel that the Muslims are finally going back to the Qur'an, and that's amazing insha'Allah - and in essence motivation comes from living and trying to live for the Qur'an and Sunna - or to be even more specific to live for Allah our Maker in the way that the Best of creation (our Prophet Muhammad may Allah bless him and give him peace) did - i.e. the Sunna.
I feel that a lot of motivation comes from rememebring the brevity of this dunya, and also from KNOWING, with your heart, the life of our messenger (pbuh) whose life was the best there is in terms of pleasing Allah. I also feel that trying to make a POINT of remembering Allah standing, seated, and reclining on our sides eventually works. When Allah sees in you that you REFUSE to live in a state of ghafla (heedlessness) He ultimately (after testing your sincerity) removes ghafla away from you. You then live, motivated by, and rejoicing in, the presence and PLEASURE of Allah. And that keeps you going insha'Allah!
Name Ismail - United Kingdom
How did you find time to learn the Qur'an and its meanings, while you were in university and working out!?
Salaam alaykum Ismail,
Good question! What works for me personally, and I ask Allah to accept all our deeds, ameen, is to dedicate an hour a day doing nothing but Qur'an. No matter what happens, that one out of the twenty four hours Allah gave us - I feel - should go to learning the Qur'an and its meanings. I emphasize: that's what works for me, but I'm sure you get the spirit of what I'm trying to say.
I personally feel that learning how to recite in Arabic is important, but of equal importance is learning its meanings in your mother tongue (whatever that may be).
Therefore, finding the best translation in your language is pretty much a must, and trying to decipher what the Arabic is saying through reading the translation. When Allah sees how serious you are in wanting to know EXACTLY what He's saying to you - after testing your sincerity - He eventually gives you what you want, because it is what He wants for you.
Allah did send this Qur'an for you personally, and I feel that when you REALIZE that (i.e. it becomes REAL in your heart), you (through His help) break any barriers between you and His words... and ultimately between you and Him.
I pray this helps.
Name Ashraff - Sri Lanka
How can one lead a balanced life style in order to live in this world to prepare oneself for the success of next world, bearing in mind his obligations towards his family? Can one strive to earn a living to provide decent living and education to his children?
Jazakum Allah kheir for your question. I believe that if a decent living and education for the children are ultimately for Allah, then not only should one do that, one would also get rewarded for doing so. The niyya - intention - is very important however. What Shaytan tries to do here, conveniently for the nafs, is make us attempt to provide these things but for our own egos. That, of course, is what must be avoided.
Now when this inward intention is clear, one not only sees more clearly, but also knows which decisions are for Allah and which are for the nafs (ego). This is only achievable through this state of mind and heart that I mention (that I highly recommend we aspire to!). I recommend a transcribed article called Seeing with Both Eyes by Sh. Abdal Hakim Murad (T.J. Winter): Seeing with Both Eyes
I pray this helps.
Name Muhammad Shaheen -
Thank you for your time, sheikh!
My question is: What do you think is the priority, giving da`wa to Muslims who have forgotten Allah, or just forgetting about them and reinventing the Ummah by giving da`wa to non-Muslims? If you had to pick one, who has priority (don't say both)?
Jazaka Allah kheir
Jazak Allah kheir for your question.
I think the priority depends on the person giving the da`wa. I mean certain converts are usually better at giving da`wa to their people (their qawm). As Allah said - "li kulli qawmin had" that for every people there is a Guide.
Others may not even speak languages that people who aren't Muslim speak and so simply can't do da`wa with them.
So generally, 1) al-aqraboon awla bil ma`roof (the ones closer to you are more worthy of your goodness) - since you probably have a stronger influence on them.
2) Every messenger (and you would be carrying a message as someone busy with da`wa) speaks the LANGUAGE (i.e. also culture etc. -so long as it's not haram) of his people.
3) Reminding Muslims is also very important, for "Surely the believers benefit from reminding."
4) Remember that if Allah uses you to rectify Muslims, that will indirectly bring those who aren't Muslim to Islam (particularly because we would be a great example - usually the best, and most comprehensive type of da`wa).
I hope this helps insha'Allah
I ask you for prayers.
Name sarah - United Kingdom
Asalam alaikum dear brother,
I would like to ask how it is possible for a women to gain success in this world and the next in regards to her duties towards her husband which are not appreciated by the husband?
How can a women fulfil her role when her husband doesn't treat her properly?
Alaykum as-salaam sister!
That's a very important and pertinent question, and I ask Allah to guide me in answering you to the best of my ability insha'Allah... ameen.
It's important to remember that as an umma (nation) we are ordered by Allah to do what we have to, yet to leave the result up to Him. Bearing this in mind, one can attempt to treat his/her father (for example, and I stray off topic on purpose here) with "birr" (excellence of conduct)and kindness and yet get unappreciation in return. That does not neccesarily signify Allah's displeasure with the son/daughter. Allah's pleasure/displeasure is a function of 1) His Mercy, and 2) if we did or didn't do our role.
Our role - fortunately - does not include the result. So in this case, insha'Allah, the woman's success (and I ask Allah for that now) is dependant upon her doing what she knows is right - regardless of the appreciation or lack thereof on her husband's part. And even while doing so, making du`aa for him, and showing patience at what Allah chose for her throughout. If you've done all that you have to do, and you're still somewhere, then you can safely say Allah wants you there, for now at least. So make the best of it, while always remembering that ALL of our circumstances are ultimatley brought about by Allah the Lord of all the Worlds, in order to test us - and in reality, it's all up to Him, always has been and will remain so for eternity.
Doing the above, I believe - insha'Allah - IS fulfilling her role, and insha'Allah, GUARANTEES success in both worlds.
I pray this helps and I ask for your prayers.
Again jazakum Allah khayrun for your question.
Name Khaled - Algeria
Salamou alikum brother, and may Allah help you in what is good for Islam.
I am a viewer of your program in Iqraa, and actually I read about your story in hadeer.com.
I would mention here a saying from Omar bin Khatab in which the meaning is "Islam will fail because of those who did not taste the disbelief (kufr) so that they cannot appreciate the bounty of Islam."
From this, is it necessary brother for someone to really taste the sweetness of IMAN, that he spend some of his life far from Allah, so that when he comes back to Allah, he will do his utmost to serve Islam, and erase his sins? What is really behind your enthiusiam to serve Islam brother, what motivates you?
And finally brother, which one you see better?
Someone who since his childhood is commited to Islam, and serving Islam, or someone who was away from Allah, but he come back to Allah with strong commitment: which one would you like to experience, for your son at least?
Taking into account what Omar used to say to the companions, "I am the best among you, because, I was the worst amongst you doing sins in JAHILYA (preIslamic times), and now all those have been converted to good deeds."
And jazaka Allah khayran.
Answer Salaam alaykum,
Jazak Allah khayrun for your very interesting question(s). I'll try to answer as much as possible but if I don't get through them all, please understand and forgive me.
People are of different natures, and are brought up in different environments. Sometimes Allah's qadar (fate) entails that someone be brought up in what you've labeled jahiliya since childhood - that usually doesn't leave the person with any choice, at least in the beginning.
I think that seeking a life of jahiliya is not something that you should seek in order to appreciate Islam later (in other words, it's not something that a father can wish for their son). However, if Allah's Will decrees this (without purposeful intervention on the part of the person or their parents), then one can safely say that it was part of Allah's qadar for the person, and if the person finds a 'sweetness' of faith in their heart because of that, then that is Allah's rizq (sustanance) for that person, and let them rejoice in it. However, i guarantee you my brother, that there is a 'sweetness' that emanates from knowing that Allah didn't allow you to stray ever (because you did your best as well since childhood). People reading this now who have lived a life of Iman from the beginning know this. In other words, there is good in both states, so long as they are sincere and not superficial and so long as Allah is remembered throughout (either state).
In light of the above, some people appreciate Islam more after coming back from a strayed path, but for some people it's better that they don't ever 'taste' the jahiliya you menioned earlier. And Allah knows best when it comes to His servants, and that's many times Allah's unseen wisdom behind much of the apparent discrepancy in physical provision, or predestined environments etc..
Name Youssuf Muhammad - United States
Salamu Aliakom Br. Moez.
I just want to say jazak Allahu khairan for taking the time to develop shows like Parables of the Quran and Stairway to Heaven. My question to you is: how can the Muslim youth of today, who are bombarded by so many worldy distractions, focus on their deen and ibada?
Jazak Allah kheir for your question. I can't write that much so I'll try to be brief yet to the point.
Focus. For those practicing already, I feel it's KEY to ponder and contemplate the Qur'an's meanings, and to hang around the 'right crowd,' never compromise prayer on time, and spend as much time as Allah allows doing da`wa and learing the deen and learning about the seera (biography) and Sunna of Allah's best creation (the Prophet Muhammad, may Allah bless him and give him peace). I recommend a trancribed article: Seeing with Both Eyes
For those who aren't practicing yet (and I ask Allah to help us and them to ALL practice, ameen), I feel that's important to search for the appropriate shahwa (desire)/ shubha (misconception) that is currently impeding them. When that's (1) discovered, and insha'Allah (2) solved (by Allah's Will) practicing becomes an easy and even desirable thing. Usually it's a lack of knowledge about the true essence and beauty of Allah, His messenger (pbuh), and Islam, that hinders us and allows us to be distracted. When one sees the beauty in something, he knows exactly how to prevent himself from distraction, and knows how to focus. The chore-like, burdensome feeling is gone, and the heart is now in it and kicks in.
Everyone likes beauty - at all levels - and Truth is beautiful. Islam is Truth and has been since Allah created Adam (pbuh), and so Islam IS beautiful (and desirable, once truly known) at ALL levels.
I pray this helps.
Name Mohamed Fahmy - United Kingdom
Profession IT Consultant
Could you please give us few hints and tips on memorising Quran, do you take time off or can you accomodate within your busy schedule? Also, some hints and tips on Dawaa would be great as in what to avoid when addressing non-muslims.
Gazak ALLAH Khairan
Jazakum Allah kheir for your question.
I would like to refer you to Ismail's (UK) question below just because of the lack of time.
Something I can add is that you should find a teacher that you feel comfortable with, and also a reciter whom you feel comfortable when listening to. Once that's taken care of, the hour a day I was telling Ismail about can also be spent listening to the Qur'an (your specific reciter) while following with one's eyes the words on the pages (for those who can't read Arabic yet). I feel it should be part of the day, just one part, yet dedicated part insha'Allah. but again please see Ismail's answer, I wish I could write again but there isn't much time.
As for when addressing people who aren't Muslim (yet, insha'Allah they'll become one day - I mean who thought Sayedna Umar Ubn Al-Khattab (RA) was to convert or Sayedna Khaled Ibn El-Waleed (RA!) - never forget that!!):
Please see this link for the second part of your question (I found it useful): Errors in the Current Mode of Preaching
And remember to also avoid proving the Qur'an's authenticity through science because it's a very dry and at time forceful approach, no matter how softly one may speak. Tell them about the Prophet Muhammad (salla Allahu `alayhi wa sallam) - many of the Divine qualities were manifested through him (pbuh).
I also try not to call them non-Muslims, cause it makes then feel like you're something that they're not - like they're missing out or something, or like you're better than them!! Try: People who aren't Muslim.
I hope this helps and sorry for not being able to write very much, but I ask Allah to bless what was said.
Name Hoda - United States
Salam Alikom Moaz;
Barak Allah Feek, and Jazak khairan for your efforts, I sent you before as a mother of pre-teen childrens in the US asking you to give some attention to the Moslem kids outside the Moslem countries. I get my children who are 10-12 to watch your show. My daughter is really instinctly making her life evolving in Islam and I really want them to get more attached and feel personally involved. I wish there could be a chance for them to attend the show with you but I know the show is aired from Cairo.
Why do you not get some children to be on your show so you can attract younger generations and remember that these youngesters are the future Muslim men and women?
Jazak Allah Khairan
Jazakum Allah kheir for your message. That sounds like a great idea and I'll do my best to implement it insha'Allah if possible. Please forgive me if I haven't responded to your email yet, as you can imagine the number of emails a TV show can get, and how much this poor servant travels. I pray that Allah blesses your children and fills their hearts with His love... ameen.
Name Salmann - Iceland
Is it necessery for a new Moslem to get circumcized.? And when has he to let do it?
Jazakum Allahu khayrun for your question.
Since this is a fatwa-related question, I refer you to the fatwa department (Fatwa Bank) or your local scholar as that is more personal.
Name Nader - United States
Bismillah Ar-Rahman Al-Raheem
Assalmu Alaikum brother Moez,
May Allah reward you for the great work and what you've been doing.. ameen.
My question revolves around how to attract more younger Muslims to the masajid. As Muslims living in the West there are so many distractions, what can we do to make the masjid a center of attraction for our youth?
Alaykum as-sallam wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh,
First, jazakum Allah kheir for your question.
I think that we should focus on making our masjids 'fun' during the rest of the day (it is also 'fun' during prayers of course, but khushoo` (humility) is another kind of spiritual "fun" that only those who have tasted can recognize!!) as we are told that the companions (RA) used to wrestle in the masjid etc.., but when things were serious they knew their priorities. A friend of mine once said, "You should put the 'fun' back into fundamentalism."
An Islamic center can have more than just a praying area, and in other rooms I recommend playing relevant video material (even movies, if not containing prohibited scenes) in them. Inviting youth speakers also works with the youth, and you can show relevant youth programs there, and have contests etc.. in the masjid or center.
I also refer you (for the lack of time) to my first answer today, Yolla's question at the bottom of the page, and to my answer to Youssuf from the US, also somewhere below. Insha'Allah that should be useful.
At the end of the day, if we SINCERELY ask Allah to help us, He HIMSELF shows us ways that can help invite youth to Him without compromising the Deen to make it compatible, and thus losing its beauty and essence.
I pray this helps insha'Allah.
Name Omar - United Kingdom
Dear Mr Masoud.
First of all I would like to thank you for your wonderful TV series, which have helped me immensely in climbing my -admittedly slippery- ladder of faith.
I am a 17 year old Syrian Muslim currently living in the UK, and have been practicing Islam for about 2 and a half years now.
The thing I find with being a Muslim is that I am never completely happy with myself (in a good way!). By this I mean, for example, when I first reverted it was because I felt bad because I didn't pray. Then I felt bad because I didn't know enough Quran, so I tried learning some. Then I felt bad because I didn't understand it, so I started reading tafseer..etc, etc. (I could go on for a while).
The problem now is that I have very few Muslim friends, not because I haven't looked, but because frankly, all the 'Muslims' at our college are generally bad people (Dealing in drugs, drinking, lude behaviour, etc.).
What can I do? To be a truly successful Muslim, I know I should have more Mulsim friends, but it's not fair on the friends I have now, because they have been nothing but good to me, so why should I ditch them? Also, I believe that in a way, me being friends with them has helped them see a better side of Islam, rather than assuming that Islam is what the other so called Muslims of my college partake in. What's your view on my extremely longwinded but geniune problem?
Thank you again for all that you have done, Jazakum Allah Khayran.
Salaam alaykum Omar,
Jazak Allah kheir for your message. There isn't much time left here but I'll try to be brief and to the point.
Ditching people entirely has never been a very wise thing to do. There is a DISTINCT difference between not hanging around someone while they drink alcohol, for example, yet taking them with you to the Friday prayer on the college campus. You cut off momentarily - when the sin is present, and therefore so is Allah's displeasure, particularly if it's of the greater sins. And even then you try not to hate the person, but more the deed itself. You later can meet the person, particularly for their own benefit when they're not indulge in directly in that which displeases our Maker (and their's too, for that matter!).
Many good people exist nowadays, who may not be Muslim in name, but believe in Allah and don't associate partners with Him. If they don't know about Islam yet, then if you can hang out with them (obviously assuming they don't indulge in sins that displease Allah), it would benefit them and yourelf, for - to the best of their knowledge (I emphasise: if they TRULY meet the above stated criteria) they're as 'Muslim' and submissive to Allah as it gets. Not only will you tell them about our beloved Messenger (salla Alla `alayhi wa sallam) but about his message the Qur'an as well, and you will benefit from the da`wa you make as well. Bearing this is mind, and hanging around as many Muslims as possible (not while doing greater sins etc..), you'll find a healthy balance of not being alone insha'Allah. You won't have to completely 'ditch' people, nor will you have to hang around people who are Truth-coverers. Couple that with true SINCERITY with Allah in terms of asking Him to introduce you to His people - to people whom He is pleased with, and you're guaranteed to succeed insha'Allah!
Basically we should hang around people who don't purposely displease Allah and the closer they are to their fitra (inherent nature - that Allah has created us as) and Islam IS (in it's essence) our Fitra - the more we should hang out with them! What qualifies a lot of people who aren't Muslim nowadays is how badly we - and the media - end up representing Islam. What determines our success in the hereafter insha'Allah, is definitely not what our ID cards say!
I pray this helps.